Love and Friendship

SOMEONE wrote me an email today and asking what I think about this topic – Love and Friendship.

Seems like a simple question but not so. For a hopeless romantic and emotional me, love and friendship can be translated into multitude of things and interpretations…

Here I am going to quote him verbatim…

  • Friendship is a quiet walk in the park with the one you trust… Love is when you feel like you are the only two around
  • Friendship is when they gaze into your eyes and you know they care… Love is when they gaze into your eyes and it warms your heart…
  • Friendship is being close even when you are far apart… Love is when you can still feel their hand on your heart when they are not near
  • Friendship is hoping that they experience the very best… Love is when you bring them the very best
  • Friendship occupies your mind… Love occupies your soul
  • Friendship is knowing that you will always try to be there when in need… Love is when you will give up everything to be at their side
  • Friendship is a warm smile in the winter… Love is a warming touch that sends a pulse through your heart
  • Love is a beautiful smile to which nothing compares – A tender laugh, which opens your heart – A single touch that melts away your fears – A smell that reminds you of the tenderness of heaven – A voice that reminds you of the innocence of youth
  • Friendship can survive without love – Love cannot live without friendship!

I will write based on  my observation on what I know and experienced. It was the ultimate thing to have your lover/partner as your best friend.

But in general, there’s a thin line between love and friendship. Very tricky.

Your love for him as his best friend is pure. However, your love for him as your man is more selfish and based on conditions. Selfishness clouds your vision with jealousy and bias. As his woman, you could potentially get on his nerves. But as his best friend, he would love you until the end of time. Strange but true!

Seems like enormous mountain to climb but if you can walk through it with open eyes and extra care and perseverance, the rewards awaits is tenfold and a lifetime of happiness.

Seriously if you choose to cross this proverbial line, you have to be smart enough to weigh all the possibilities, both negative and positive. Be honest and upfront with yourself. Sex should be the last act on your mind. Do not ignore any potential red flags observed during friendship. If you notice small problems now, they will become bigger problems later with the emotional baggage added in.

It is often best to save your friendship, which can last a lifetime, rather than trading it in for a fleeting sexual moment… A