Midlife Crisis… Or is it?
TRUTHFULLY, I do feel like I haven’t been writing anything here for so long.
There were multitude of things that resulted me not writing much since early January.
Mainly I was preoccupied with work. And then my baby Adam involved in a horrible accident three weeks ago.
But today I am compelled to write about something that I never thought I would be writing… Midlife crisis…
I will be 50 in a few months time. And I like to think that I am still the same person albeit aged a bit…Lol
As I was reading articles after articles about collapsed marriages… Partners seeking younger people… While leaving former partners heartbroken and in the mess… It got me thinking. Would I be experiencing midlife crisis such as seeking affairs outside the marriage… If my late husband John is still around? Would we be happy together and contented with each other?
As we all know marriage is not a bed of roses. It needs constant work from both sides to make it strong and last a lifetime…
Funny that this question came to mind knowing that I was (not boastful, by the way) very faithful and devoted wife. But really… can I really guarantee that I will would stay faithful and devoted if I am going through roller-coaster rides of midlife crisis?
But if years spent devoting my all, caring for John with Alzheimer’s disease robbing him and us a normal life and it didn’t even make me give the opposite sex a glance. I know I would be the same person. Faithful and devoted. I take my marriage vow seriously. Very.
Wait! How come midlife crisis mostly associated with male and not female…
According to Wikipedia, a midlife crisis is a transition of identity and self-confidence that can occur in middle aged individuals. It is a psychological and behavioral observation that commonly occurs with individuals between the ages 45–64. Its observations differ in a diverse manner for each individual.
There you go.
Seriously. Like seriously… I never thought that I would be affected by or thinking about this so-called midlife crisis.
I have heard often how this dreaded period of time that conjures up images of a Harley-mounted silver-haired 50-something man (or woman) riding off into the sunset with a younger partner.
But seriously though, how does this period of self-reflection really present itself, and how can we recognise its grip on our lives? Certainly not everyone of a certain age runs out and has an affair or purchases a new sports car. Indeed, there are all sorts of other signs — some you may have never even considered — that can signal the arrival of a midlife crisis.
According to an article I read, studies do show that at least a third of men in their 40s and 50s admit to forking out big bucks on a new car as a result of a midlife crisis. And some women admit to getting Botox or making some kind of drastic change to their appearance during this transitional period.
And…wait… apparently women are more likely to go through a midlife crisis earlier than men, often between the ages of 35 and 44.)
And if cutting my long lustrous hair really short in the recent months was any indication, I’ll be damned…Lol! Midlife crisis is here…
By the way I have been keeping my hair long as long as I can remember. I have this thing about women look feminine (in my mind and eyes) with long lustrous hair and I wanted to look feminine as well as I am blessed with long healthy hair.
Even my late husband John had explicitly “banned” me from cutting it. Not even an inch off!
And yet a few months ago I just went to my favourite hair salon and snipped it all off… leaving it really short and I couldn’t be happier!
As Danny jokingly said, he wanted his old bff Aza (with long hair) back and not that underage looking girl (that needs minders with her 24/7) posing as Aza talking to him…hahaha… A