The Big 50

HOW does it feels to reach that milestone of big 50…

Which I had just celebrated less than a month ago. I didn’t feel much different though, apart from more white hair sprouting all over my head, sagging neck, stomachs bulge, breasts droop, faces wrinkle, underarms swing like fish bellies…

If you’re wondering about good things about turning 50 and getting older, remember that everyone deals with aging differently.

For the life of me, ageing or getting older has never been a problem to me… year in year out as my number getting bigger (ie older) it never bothered me a bit.

Even when I spotted my first ever white hair a few years ago I was just laughing it off…

So what…yes I am getting older. Its not a big deal…

It is a process that every single one of us will go through…whether you like it or not…

I know for some, it’s easy enough to get down on yourself, but a brighter perspective can make you realise that 50 is a time of celebration and acceptance.

Looking back, my life was pretty enjoyable with expected ups and downs for sure.

Into my second year with my current employer ( ie stable income though nothing to shout about but am thankful) and my son is doing well in college and life…I am seriously at a better place – emotionally, psychologically and financially…

I heard some people said that 40 was when all the talk about being “over the hill?” Well, when you reach 50, you might say, is over the hill, past the meadow, and on to bigger and better things on the other side.

In fact, when enter your 50, you can leave many cares and worries behind and embrace life in its fullest form. Of course, new problems and ailments are bound to come your way, but that is the case no matter what your age. A person at age 50 can create better health habits and become even healthier than earlier in life. After all, “age is just a number.”

Several things I noticed about turning 50…

I am much less fearful, I don’t care about opinions especially of others who don’t matter much in my life; I know myself and I know what I want (albeit vaguely…hehe); I appreciate life much better; laughing at myself was never a problem before but it gets much easier now; I am taking life less seriously; I stop caring what other people think; I am more at peace and most importantly am less critical of my body and weight…

Now I embrace my imperfections and yes I am allowed to be as grumpy as I wish; some say (and you can feel it) that our inner confidence shines; spontaneous is the order of the day and yes we can go gray with our hair and it enhances our ability to let go and to forgive others.

Apparently in the US, the was a joke about being “over the hill” put a negative spin on aging. While in the Netherlands, where women who turn 50 are honored with a birthday celebration that acknowledges their wisdom and experience.

Turning 50 will definitely see bodily changes. Menopause ends the childbearing years (though I have yet to reach this menopausal stage). Gray colour takes over my lustrous black hair, and I happily embrace it, with waists thicken and knees and back ache. Skin loses its elasticity, causing some of us to try and turn the clocks back by means of all sorts of chemical and medical interventions — moisturisers, ointments to reduce age spots, wrinkle creams, Botox injections, plastic surgery, face and eye lifts (and am proud to say…none of the above. Thank you).

I am very proud to say I embrace ageing. Wrinkles, saggy boobs and all…

Being single when I am 50 I gleefully escape from that infamous “midlife crisis,” where divorce is often an end result. Though if John is still around I don’t think we will ever think about the ‘D’ word…

While experts cite fear as a major factor in men’s lives, we women are driven by the opportunity to change or improve aspects of our lives we may have been unhappy with over the years. 

At 50 now, I acknowledge being more comfortable in my body and less critical of how they look. This self-acceptance, often enables moi to enjoy sex more… Yeehaaaa….

Turning 50 isn’t the end of the world, but a threshold that opens onto new horizons. Whether we view the landscape ahead of us with optimism and hope or regret and fear may determine whether we will reach those milestones of 60, 70, 80, 90 and beyond. Fingers crossed… A